Antisocial or just misunderstood by others?

Are you often accused of being antisocial, that you can’t fit, that you behave violently or impulsively or can’t fulfill responsibilities related to family, work or school? Let’s think about it. Are they right?

Here are some signs and symptoms that Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) may include:

• Disregard for right and wrong
• Persistent lying or deceit to exploit others
• Being callous, cynical and disrespectful of others
• Using charm or wit to manipulate others for personal gain or personal pleasure
• Arrogance, a sense of superiority and being extremely opinionated
• Recurring problems with the law, including criminal behavior
• Repeatedly violating the rights of others through intimidation and dishonesty
• Impulsiveness or failure to plan ahead
• Hostility, significant irritability, agitation, aggression or violence
• Lack of empathy for others and lack of remorse about harming others
• Unnecessary risk-taking or dangerous behavior with no regard for the safety of self or others
• Poor or abusive relationships
• Failure to consider the negative consequences of behavior or learn from them
• Being consistently irresponsible and repeatedly failing to fulfill work or financial obligations

ASPD is condition that should not be neglected and if you suspect that you, a friend or family member have ASPD, you might want to seek help from a mental health professional…

BUT IF YOU DON’T…

Let’s think for a second about a different scenario…

They say that you:

• Disregard for right and wrong

What if your perception of right or wrong is different in particular situation and the people around you cannot or do not want to understand it? You have tried… may be many times and it just doesn’t work.

• Persistent lying or deceit to exploit others

What if you lie intentionally, because you want to fit in. May be you have tried to be honest, but the people around you doesn’t accept you as who you are? Do you exploit them, or you just take advantage of the situation, because you have no alternative but to leave. Let’s say it’s not right, but let’s assume that you may not have another choice. Sometimes reality is a harsh place to be in…

• Being callous, cynical and disrespectful of others

What if this so called needed or deserved respect is something that is used to cover one’s wishes to dominate you and invalidate your own needs, right of opinion or preferences. What if this respect requirement is a way to plant a sense of obligation and duty?

• Using charm or wit to manipulate others for personal gain or personal pleasure

What if the person that is saying that for you, have failed at something that you didn’t? What if they make up excuses for their own inability and try to invalidate your successes?

• Arrogance, a sense of superiority and being extremely opinionated

What if you have opinion in many situations that the ones surrounding you doesn’t? What if knowledge sometimes seems like an arrogance?

• Recurring problems with the law, including criminal behavior

Well, we are not trying to excuse everyone… What’s done is done and one must be responsible for his actions.

• Repeatedly violating the rights of others through intimidation and dishonesty

Rights of others? Sometimes many people feel like they have rights that they actually don’t. Should you respect every wish of every man that thinks he has the right to do whatever he wants to?

• Impulsiveness or failure to plan ahead

What if the plans that you had or want to have are doomed to failure BECAUSE OF people around you?

• Hostility, significant irritability, agitation, aggression or violence

Sun Tzu: “When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.” – When a foe is cornered, they must fight for their lives and will do so with the energy of final fear.

• Lack of empathy for others and lack of remorse about harming others

Again, we are not trying to excuse everyone, so feel free to discuss this symptom further.

• Unnecessary risk-taking or dangerous behavior with no regard for the safety of self or others

Same as above…

• Poor or abusive relationships

Are you the cause or the victim?

• Failure to consider the negative consequences of behavior or learn from them

Isn’t that a common issue?

• Being consistently irresponsible and repeatedly failing to fulfill work or financial obligations

Not trying to oppose that.

These may not be valid excuses for all the points, but most of the time – not all of the charges have been filed.

Are you the reason or the reaction?

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